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Boundaries - Townsend and Cloud 

Personal Care and Growth

Boundaries - Townsend and Cloud

Man's Search for Meaning - Viktor Frankl


Boundaries with Teens


Emotion Safety

Episode 26: Types of "No" Part 2—How to Say "No" to Toxicity, The Real Meaning of Turn the Other Check & How to Form a Boundaries Committee The Best of You


This week on The Best of You podcast, we're getting into how to say No to toxic behaviors—including practical strategies, scripts, and misconstrued bible passages. There’s no one-size fits all when it comes to setting healthy boundaries. A strategy that might work in a healthy releationship won't work with toxicity. It's important to understand the difference.


This is a packed episode. Here’s what we discuss:


1. Why toxic behaviors require an entirely different type of "no"

2. An overview of toxic behaviors

3. Extreme toxicity and when to cut off a relationship all together

4. 5 steps to implement a boundary with toxic behavior

5. 3 scripts for 3 different situations

6. What about turning the other cheek?

7. How to form a boundaries committee


Quotes about the Body

"God doesn't call the equipped; He equips the called."
the obstacle is the path

“We are uniquely equipped to help those we used to be”! St. Catherine of Sienna

Insanity is when you love someone so much you help them destroy you while trying to save them

How do you build esteem? Do esteemable things.

what is revealed can be healed

What isn't revealed - CAN'T be healed!

Discomfort FOR Growth

When you're gripping the steering wheel you'll get cramps and be unable to be flexible and to trust. So we'll let loosely. God moves and writes straight on crooked lines

The sun's always there even though the clouds hide it sometimes!~ St Josephine Bakhita

Grief is the luxury for the brain that's safe

 "Jesus is not afraid of the mess"


My prayer:

 Jesus yes will you make a home for me,

His reply: Robin  will you make a home for me

 Will you let me live in your heart?

 I see you Robin, will you stay with me? I want you, I choose you, please stay with me,

wisdom for keeping regulated, present and detached & relational

Keep my eyes focused on the glory to come by following him and I will be on the right path


Do not take the blame, the emotions I'm experiencing need to be regulated by breath work


Listen to learn not to formulate a defense


State what you observe and how you feel, be polite and diplomatic. Do not blame and do not condemn


Open up to intimacy while moderating vulnerability


Only have feelings for what is true. Detach from all else.Name the feeling that I have for what is true to me

spiritual : when going to Jesus, try making it more about Him vs. getting my questions answered

Jesus is Justice and Mercy - my human dignity is valuable

Pain is sanctifying – Not opposite of punishment.


Its chosen reward is so much greater.


Kids are resilient – God always provide medicine – He always heals and makes glorious.

God's grace and mercy is far greater than any sin or tragedy - He will ALWAYS keep His promises to make beauty out of ashes ~

I want to be the peacemaker not the peacekeeper


Lord, I'm going to be silent OK? You speak, speak Lord I'm listening


suffering does not save, love saves. Our suffering is redemptive if it is done in love


we should do all we can to eliminate suffering but some remains


Jesus, ioffer you this cup from Robin, to drink of my blood of sacrifice, do you accept? This yes will become peace and friendship if it is done in love expecting only unity and Christ nothing else


look at Jesus with the gaze of hope and hang on



Do not be governed by fear but by trust.

If I love the life I live I will love a life of loveI'

Cameras, cells, gadgets, get rid of them. Trust in God trust in one another and trust in our life our life is not a tragedy


a woman who was severely tortured said, I do not want to turn my life into a tragedy she wanted to be free


" this life, this marriage, is not a tragedy it is our life and our family and an opportunity to grow together


suffering is not always evil


yes try to eliminate suffering but suffering can make us poor and little and it limits us so this is a good thing because we are diminished and humble and it invites us to understand others that is just not always so simple


let yourself be weak so God can take over


the beautiful outside, my children, the rain this is Jesus smiling on me his consolation it's always there we just need to look


those who abandon themselves to God will encounter God not just the idea of God


the words I love you are really just an idea but the real God is with our heart to taste his mercy and that comes in times of trial that's when we experience it the most versus being a theological idea


there is a big difference between an idea and an encounter


where man suffers Christ is present he has a spouse to the suffering


Jesus chose to be crushed by suffering you are not abandoned, you are poor, fragile, weak and it is there that we have the deepest encounter. You can and will experience in God but the most profound is when our heart is broken and open to the tenderness of God and his mercy

it is in the fire that gold is molded. Trust!


Attached to God in the trial and wait, we will be led and it's a call to hope


a very simple idea, every trial we go through is a trial of faith hope or love or all of them or all three


cancer, our vocation, darkness, job loss they're all diverse yet spiritually the crisis all has to do with faith hope and love.


Every trial is always a trial of faith, what is God doing? Why is he doing this? Does he still love me? Our faith is always shaken and choosing to trust God can become difficult so hang on because faith doesn't feel natural


so we messed up in faith and make an act of faith versus rebel against it. I don't understand but I trust anyway

this isn't just a habit this has to become an adult decision with each trial faith becomes deeper, our faith is deepened and purified in trials. Grace will uphold us even if we don't feel it. It's a decision to choose to believe to trust. I am suffering but I believe in your love even though I don't feel it. Trials are a call to faith.



Hope: our hope is shaken so we ask where can I place my hope? Who can I count on? God test our hope and trials we lose certain securities


love: continue to do the right thing to pray and praise even when it costs us something trials purify's love so love well


What are the conversions I'm called to make in this trial in time avid versity?


What decisions in this area of Love am I called to make?


Perhaps there's a decision to pray, to forgive, a call to patients, except poverty, to exercise mercy. These are all sorts of things we can welcome in these situations and hear the call, ask those questions?


We should try to resolve problems if at all possible with solutions but most importantly is journeying, going deeper and accepting the inner work


. In the midst of this trial what am I being asked to do what is the calling?


Once we understand the call that is being addressed, we can open our hearts and our gaze


what are you asking of me God?

During the trial one can feel insecure a low self esteem diminished, once we hear the call and choose to step towards faith, hope and love and whatever God is calling us to do our esteem grows, our confidence in God grows our confidence increases


act of trust: make an act of faith in a variety of ways everything else follows


at times of trial focus isn't to eliminate the problem what is the decision of faith hope and trust?


Some ways we can be enlightened:

prayer: and trust, ask for grace and light, engage in a deeper way with Jesus


accept reality: don't rebel or refuse the situation. Say yes to it, it can require time, there are phases: denial, refusal and rebellion and we need to have a resignation, resign ourselves to God's holy will with words like:


yes, this is the path, I have not chosen it, but I accept it because I trust in God. This is blind resignation, accepting reality, and then you can hear the call. If you aren't all in and fully resign to God's will, our emotions and noise of other ideas will overpower hearing the call and accepting what reality is what the situation actually is.


Live in the present moment, one day at a time and this invites light up to the light

This all takes time and I need to trust the process and believe in God


people need to go through the painful experience to come to understand and know belief system


when people trigger me and push my buttons I need to get out of the way and stop reacting

Response to manipulative or defensive behavior:

this is not acceptable, you crossed the line, please leave, until you can be peaceful and respectful


. Righteous anger is very important and it needs to be seen it's not OK to treat me this way


try to detach from those who are trying to manipulate/ get me to act a certain way

Brene Brown Quotes on Shame


Shame, blame, disrespect, betrayal, and the withholding of affection damage the roots from which love grows. Love can only survive these injuries if they are acknowledged, healed and rare.

You are imperfect, you are wired for struggle, but you are worthy of love and belonging.

Because true belonging only happens when we present our authentic, imperfect selves to the world, our sense of belonging can never be greater than our level of self-acceptance.

If we can share our story with someone who responds with empathy and understanding, shame can’t survive.

Numb the dark and you numb the light.

Shame derives its power from being unspeakable.

We live in a world where most people still subscribe to the belief that shame is a good tool for keeping people in line. Not only is this wrong, but it’s dangerous.

Those who feel lovable, who love, and who experience belonging simply believe they are worthy of love and belonging.

We judge people in areas where we’re vulnerable to shame.

For me, vulnerability led to anxiety, which led to shame, which led to disconnection, which led to Bud Light.

Brene Brown Quotes on Vulnerability

Owning our story can be hard but not nearly as difficult as spending our lives running from it. Embracing our vulnerabilities is risky but not nearly as dangerous as giving up on love and belonging and joy—the experiences that make us the most vulnerable. Only when we are brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light.

We cultivate love when we allow our most vulnerable and powerful selves to be deeply seen and known, and when we honor the spiritual connection that grows from that offering with trust, respect, kindness and affection.

Authenticity is a collection of choices that we have to make every day. It’s about the choice to show up and be real. The choice to be honest. The choice to let our true selves be seen.

Vulnerability is the birthplace of innovation, creativity and change.

If we want greater clarity in our purpose or deeper and more meaningful spiritual lives, vulnerability is the path.

Vulnerability sounds like truth and feels like courage.

Our willingness to own and engage with our vulnerability determines the depth of our courage and the clarity of our purpose; the level to which we protect ourselves from being vulnerable is a measure of our fear and disconnection.

To love ourselves and support each other in the process of becoming real is perhaps the greatest single act of daring greatly.

Vulnerability is not knowing victory or defeat, it’s understanding the necessity of both; it’s engaging. It’s being all in.

Fitting in and belonging are not the same thing. In fact, fitting in is one of the greatest barriers to belonging. Fitting in is about assessing a situation and becoming who you need to be in order to be accepted. Belonging, on the other hand, doesn’t require us to change who we are; it requires us to be who we are.

Vulnerability is based on mutuality and requires boundaries and trust. It’s not oversharing, it’s not purging, it’s not indiscriminate disclosure, and it’s not celebrity-style social media information dumps. Vulnerability is about sharing our feelings and our experiences with people who have earned the right to hear them.

Brene Brown Quotes on Courage

Courage is a heart word. The root of the word courage is cor – the Latin word for heart. In one of its earliest forms, the word courage meant “To speak one’s mind by telling all one’s heart.” Over time, this definition has changed, and today, we typically associate courage with heroic and brave deeds. But in my opinion, this definition fails to recognize the inner strength and level of commitment required for us to actually speak honestly and openly about who we are and about our experiences — good and bad. Speaking from our hearts is what I think of as “ordinary courage.

Courage starts with showing up and letting ourselves be seen.

The willingness to show up changes us, It makes us a little braver each time.

Only when we’re brave enough to explore the darkness will we discover the infinite power of our light.

Don’t try to win over the haters; you’re not the jackass whisperer.

Shame resilience is the ability to say, “This hurts. This is disappointing, maybe even devastating. But success and recognition and approval are not the values that drive me. My value is courage and I was just courageous. You can move on, shame.

Truth and courage aren’t always comfortable, but they’re never weakness.

Those who have a strong sense of love and belonging have the courage to be imperfect.

You either walk inside your story and own it or you stand outside your story & hustle for your worthiness.

Faith is a place of mystery, where we find the courage to believe in what we cannot see and the strength to let go of our fear of uncertainty.

Brene Brown Quotes on Empathy

Empathy’s the antidote to shame. The two most powerful words when we’re in struggle: me too.

When two people relate to each other authentically and humanly, God is the electricity that surges between them.

Self-compassion is key because when we’re able to be gentle with ourselves in the midst of shame, we’re more likely to reach out, connect, and experience empathy.

Empathy has no script. There is no right way or wrong way to do it. It’s simply listening, holding space, withholding judgment, emotionally connecting, and communicating that incredibly healing message of ‘You’re not alone.’

I believe that what we regret most are our failures of courage, whether it’s the courage to be kinder, to show up, to say how we feel, to set boundaries, to be good to ourselves. For that reason, regret can be the birthplace of empathy.

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